Most of us have either witnessed a marriage that ended in a divorce or have been through this ourselves. If neither spouse gain new awareness of their part of the problems that contributed to their marriage dissolving, each will go on to attract a similar partner in their next relationship and the dysfunctional patterns will continue.
As a health coach, many of my clients come to me for help with weight loss. At first they think they need to be told what to eat and to be made accountable. However, that formula didn't work for them in other programs. Yes, they lost weight but only to regain it. Why? Nothing really shifted in their consciousness. What my new clients do not yet know is that they needed to be willing to see their BLIND SPOTS to ensure permanent change. A personal example is that I was taught as a child to clean my plate because wasting food was bad. I was not taught to listen to my body and eat only what I needed. As a result my blind spot of cleaning the plate, led me to clean my children's plates as well. Thirty pounds later I was wondering, how did this happen?
Blind spots are what I call our invisible thinking. It's like not being able to see a hole in front of us so we keep falling into it. We can't see what we can't see. However,if a light bulb goes off in our head (new awareness) that indicates an approaching hole, it's only then can we change directions to avoid falling into it.
One of the most common blind spots comes in the form of denial. We've all become masters of rationalizing, making excuses and justifying our behavior. It's all rather innocent. None of us intend to keep falling into the hole, but once we do, we sure have good reasons for it.
The first step to change requires willingness to see our blind spots without judgement. It is only with our (in)sight are we able to start to really see the holes so we don't fall back in them.
Ready to quit falling into the hole? Contact me at email@example.com for help to shine the light on those blind spots. Together we can to create the (in) sights for lasting change.